Who Can You Trust?

Who can you trust? Good question. I have learned it is very difficult to trust in people.  Now, don't get me wrong, you have to have relationships that you can trust, but even these can be uncertain and not loyal at times. I have confided in people in the past, and it only came back to bite me. People have a sinful nature, and you can't trust how that sinful nature will turn on you when you least expect it.  The worst kind of hurt is when trust has been violated by a close friend or family member.  You can expect behavior of distrust in people in general, but when a breach of trust happens in your inner circle, that's devastating.  You can't go through life living on the edge of mistrust either, but how do you develop trustworthy friends?  

Honesty:  It the first and foremost quality in any friendship.  How honest are you to your friends about yourself? How honest are they to you in return?  Without honesty in friendship you won't have a friendship, it's acquaintances.  Friendship demands a forthright honesty that the relationship is built upon.

Truthfulness: Honesty requires truthfulness, you can't be honest without being truthful. Now being truthful can be touchy because it requires trust from the one you are being truthful with. Most of us aren't truthful because we don't want to hurt anyone, or we feel if we are truthful, it will destroy the relationship.  Again, without truthfulness we really don't have a friendship, because friends don't want secrets, lies, or mistruth being told to them.  Friendship must have a solid foundation of honesty and truthfulness in order to build a life long trust in a friendship.

Most Christians have neither honesty and truthfulness in their relationships. I say that because of the dishonesty I continually encounter in most ministry settings.  That is why there is so much mistrust in the Body of Christ, we just can't trust people anymore. Think about all the people who have left your church over the last two years?  What didn't they like about your fellowship?  Was anyone honest to you or to the leadership of the church as to why they left?  How about all the church splits and disagreements in the church? At one time churches were multiplying because of the various ways churches had disagreed, and people left to form their own church.  How about ministries in general?  How many of the employees trust the administration or leadership of the ministry?  The larger the ministry the more mistrust there is, because relationships are weak because of size and often distance. 

Now, am I being difficult with you today?  No, I don't think so, I think we have cultivated a system of survival in our relationships, and we have learned that keeping peace and tranquility is more important than being truthful and honest.  If that being the case and we are all satisfied with the way our relationships are situated, then fine, I will leave this trust issue alone.  But if you sense I have hit on a cord of truth, then what are you going to do to remedy your course of action toward the relationships in your life?

No ministry, family or friendship can grow without a trust factor. That is a fact. David Horsager has written a book called the Trust Factor and it is a great base for you to understand how trust is critical in any relationship both private and corporate. Here is a link to his website. http://www.davidhorsager.com/

Above all aspects of this trust issue, only God deserves your undivided trust, and only He can deliver a trustworthiness that will never disappoint you.

Psalms 37:5  5 Commit your way to the LORD;  trust in him, and he will act.

Keeping it honest and truthful. K