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When You Push The Limits

I don’t judge people for making bad decisions, as I have made them all my life. As a Christian, I now have the guts to admit this statement and admit that many of my decisions were self serving and done to make me look innocent.

I don’t think God holds us accountable for things we do that displease Him, especially if we admit that our decisions were wrong and we seek forgiveness. What is wrong in any situation is that we cover up our wrongdoing with justification that we think exonerates the bad decision. I have friends who do that all the time. It is okay to get drunk, and flirt with the opposite sex as long as it doesn’t end up in the sack. All of this is just a ruse, God knows your heart and even if you appear like this Baptist minister to be sweet and innocent, there is never a reason to kill a human life. I do not want to condemn her for her decision but I also don’t want to accept the reasons she gave for not keeping her baby, which according to her was just an accident within her marriage.

For many years, Susan Chorley, a Baptist minister from Boston, Massachusetts, was one of the women who remained silent about her abortion in church. Chorley shared her story with The Daily Beast this week and urged churches to offer compassion, empathy and healing to women who have abortions.


She wrote:

I was serving in a congregation in New England at the time I realized I was pregnant. I was far away from family and friends. I had always imagined I would have a second child and I knew that it would be a struggle on our family financially as well as add to the stress of our marriage, which was starting to fall apart. I didn’t want to bring a baby into the world that would feel it was a burden—and I prayed to God to help me make the best decision I could in a situation that seemed impossible.

I worked with a post abortion ministry for many years, and I understand compassion and forgiveness, yet we cannot let people live in the lie that God is okay with killing babies. Here is an article from Care Net a non-profit organization that works to bring healing to women who have had abortions:

More than 4 in 10 women who have had an abortion were churchgoers when they ended a pregnancy, researchers found in a survey sponsored by Care Net, a nonprofit organization supporting more than 1,100 pregnancy centers across North America.


But only 7 percent of women discussed their abortion decision with anyone at church. Three-fourths (76 percent) say the church had no influence on their decision to terminate a pregnancy.

The results point to a church culture that often lacks grace, McConnell said. Among women who have had an abortion:

  • Two-thirds (65 percent) say church members judge single women who are pregnant.
  • A majority (54 percent) thinks churches oversimplify decisions about pregnancy options.
  • Fewer than half (41 percent) believes churches are prepared to help with decisions about unwanted pregnancies.
  • Only 3 in 10 think churches give accurate advice about pregnancy options.

In part I think churches don’t have adequate information about abortion services, nor do they talk about abortion from a Biblical worldview, and when they do talk about it, it might sound rather judgmental.

The bottom line is everyone needs compassion and forgiveness; no one reading this blog is exempt from sinning, so we all come to the Lord for the same dose of grace. However, at no time can we say God was okay with my sinful behavior.  God never gave me a license to sin and then looked the other way when my sin found me out. People need to come to grips that it is God who we sin against, and He will never accept an excuse that puts Him in the position to okay it.

God’s way of dealing with sin is always three fold:

  1. Repentance
  2. Forgiveness
  3. Restoration


We like to skip number one, because that is the step where we have to be honest with ourselves.  That is the hardest part of living life - to be self aware and honest with ourselves. May God have mercy on us all.

Keeping it honest and truthful…K


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