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Be a Man

There have been some big changes in my lifetime, and that list would be horrendously long. But several changes that hang at the top of that list would be men. Men have changed. Men have always been the risk takers, the brawlers, the drinkers and the carousers. I am sure there is still many of those stereotypes still around, but what I see in the younger generation of men, especially in the metro areas, are men who are identity deficient.  

They have become feminized by society as a whole, and they have settled for living out safe lives and being dominated by feminine activists who want a man they can mold and control. Now I realize that doesn’t happen in every household, but there are plenty of younger men who are influenced by a more feminine lifestyle. One of the ways I gauge this is by how many women drive men around these days. Girls drive, boys ride. Someone told me once the reason for that is that the girls have jobs and can afford cars, boys are broke and unemployed. Not sure what to believe on that one. 

Anyway, indication that men are becoming femininized is how they dress. Man buns in their hair, earrings, clothing that is more blouse-like, and unisex skinny jeans. Sorry if I sound a little persnickety, but boys look more like girls now.  

Just remember what the Bible talks about how dress for men and women should not be inter-changeable.

Deut. 22:5

"A woman must not put on men's clothing, and a man must not wear women's clothing. Anyone who does this is detestable in the sight of the LORD your God.

There have been times where I have mistaken a man for a woman in the way he was dressed, and he was sporting a man bun on the top of his head. This may be a minor detail on the surface, but I think it goes deeper into why so many men are confused about their gender role, and about their own sexuality. 

My main reason for writing about this has to do with King David and his sinful life. He was called to be a man after God’s own heart, yet David had some huge flaws as a moral man and as a leader of Israel. Yet he faced his sin like a man and took responsibility for his actions. Men today will not admit they are confused and sinful and that they are influenced more by the culture of no gender differences than anything else. 

Based upon David’s Psalm 51, his repentance psalm, I think he demonstrates for us the nature of a real man

  1. A man is self-aware, verse 3:“For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me.” 
  2. A man desires truth in his inner self,verse 6: Behold, You desire truth in the innermost being.”
  3. A man has an attitude of gratefulness, verse 8: Make me hear joy and gladness
  4. A man asks God for change, verse 10: Create in me a clean O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
  5. A man has a mission of influence, verse 13 Then I will teach transgressors Your ways, and sinners will be converted to you.”
  6. A man is humble and broken before God, verse 17:  The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and a contrite heart, O God You will not despise.”

This kind of man, who practices and prays in this fashion and pursues God for the fruit mentioned in Psalm 51, will be able to change his world. This kind of man will never be confused about his sexuality, his identity, or his mission in life. This kind of man loves God, and is fully masculine in doing so. This kind of man is a dangerous man to the world around him, because he will not be influenced to sin, to lie, to cheat, to abuse or to be feminized by the culture around him. He is a real man who is self-aware of his sin, his need for truth, his request for God to change him, and to be an influence in the world.

Our society has taken a sharp left turn mainly because most men have abdicated their role in leading and have allowed the many seducing spirits in our world to influence their worldview. These influences have one objective, and that is to destroy the masculine nature of a man.  


My challenge to you is to start with a self-awareness plan - how afraid are you to admit to your sin? How much of a priority is it for you to ask God to change your hair? Go down the list again of what a man is based upon Psalm 51.


Keeping it honest and truthful…K

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